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第三部分：Catch the Star That Holds Your Destiny抓住生命里的那颗星02（第2页）

　　12。你是否仍在脑海中念叨着无数的杂事呢？

　　13。放慢你的舞步，

　　14。不要匆匆忙忙。

　　15。人生苦短，

　　16。音乐不会永远奏下去。

　　17。当你匆忙赶到目的地时，

　　18。也就错过了旅途中一半的乐趣。

　　19。当你终日忧心忡忡并马不停蹄时，20。就像一份礼物还没被拆开……21。就已丢弃……

　　22。人生不是一场竞赛。

　　23。放慢你的脚步，

　　24。倾听沿途的音符，

　　25。在音乐还没结束以前。

　　26。如果你学会了如何谱写自己的人生，那么你一点也不比著书立说者甚至攻城略地者逊色。

　　whatmakesustrulyhappy?是什么让我们幸福？

　　1。inrecentyears，researchershaveattemptedtouseavarietyofstatisticsandsurveystoansweraquestionthat’upiedcountlessgenerationsofphilosophers:whatmakesustrulyhappy?

　　2。eststhathappinessmaybelinked，inpart，torelativewealth—howwe’redoingparedtothosearoundus—overalltheoldadagethatneydoesn’tbuyhappinessseemstoholdtrue。

　　3。“wearemateriallysomuchbetteroffthanwewere50yearsago，butwe’renotoneiotahappier，”sayschrispeterson，apsychologyprofessorattheuniversityofmichigan。

　　4。that’snosurprisetohappinessexpertdavidmyers，whoseeshappinessasrecloselycorrelatedwithpeopleratherthanthings。“wehumanshaveadeepneedtobelong—toconnectwithothersinclose，supportive，intimate，caringrelationships，”hesays。“peoplewhohavesuchcloserelationshipsarerelikelytoreportthemselves‘veryhappy’。”

　　5。we’vepiledalistofsevenfactorsthatinf露enceratesofhappinessanddepression。

　　manyofthesefactorsvaryfromcitytocityandregiontoregion。here’syourchancetoseehowyourcitypares。

　　heworkshardforhishappiness6。doesworkingmakeyouunhappyorhappy?theanswer:itdepends。toilingawayatajobyouhatemayeatawayatyourhappinessovertime。butoverall，beingunemployedisworseforyourstateofmindthanbeingemployed—atleast，thatis，ifyoureaguy。

　　7。thepewresearchcenterfoundthatthepercentageofmenwhosaidtheywere“veryhappy”

　　wassignificantlylowerforunemployedmen（16percent）thanforemployedmen（37percent）。unemploymenthadlittleimpactonwomen’shappiness。

　　8。thepewresearchersspeculatethatthisisbecauserewomenthanmenareunemployedbychoice，althoughthestudydidn’tattempttoteaseapartthatdifference。

　　9。chrispeterson，ahappinessresearcherattheuniversityofmichigan，suspectsthereareotherfactorsatplayaswell。“otherstudieshavefoundthatifamanloseshisjob，itcanhavebothshort-termandlong-termpsychologicaleffects，evenifhefindsanotherjobwithequalsalary，”hesays。“forwomenit’snotunemploymentthatleadstounhappiness，butdivorce。”

　　10。inaddition，petersonstressesthatneymatterslessthanyou’dthink。“theengagedcustodianisrelikelytobehappythantheindependentlywealthy，unengagedmillionaire，”

　　hesays。“wedidn’tevolvetoberetiredandsitonthecouch。”

　　timeforfamily，friends，andmunity11。inthegrowingfieldofhappinessresearch，ohingisoverwhelminglyclear。peoplewhoaresociallyengagedarerelikelytobehappy—andlesslikelytobedepressed—thanthosewhoaren’t。

　　12。infact，timemagazinepollfoundthatthefourstsignificantsourcesofhappiness—children（77percent），friendships（76percent），contributothelivesofothers（75percent），andspousepartner（73percent）—allinvolvedspendingmeaningfultimewithotherpeople。

　　13。theproblem:“we’resocaughtupwithextraordinaryworkburdens，wedon’thavetimetoenjoythepeopleweloveorcontributetothelivesofothers，”sayspost。